In all honesty my son is one of the main reasons for writing this article.
When my partner and I broke up my son was my biggest concern.
Go figure.
That goes without saying.
But, what you don't know is I am not the biological mother.
So, my first thought after my ex and I broke up was that no matter what I wanted to do what was best for our son.
And one of the first things I had to do was find forgiveness.
I couldn't afford to carry around bitterness, anger, or resentments.
The only person that would hurt is me...
and my son.
So after some time away from my ex I began to take an honest look at myself.
It was not pretty.
I began to see how I played a huge part in our breakup.
I had become someone I didn't even recognize.
I nearly lost my soul in the relationship.
I forgot about me and focused totally on her and our son.
I was notthe same person she fell in love with.
So I had to honestly ask myself some serious questions.
If I worked on me...
if I learned to love myself again, (which I'm happy to say I have) and became that person my ex fell in love with would she want me back? Or would it be to late? I mean she was with someone else.
And finally, did I want her back? I had to keep in mind that she was the same person who ripped my heart out...
threw it on the ground...
stomped on it...
and handed it back to me...
at least that's what it felt like at the time.
All that being said, I knew I wanted my ex back.
I believed what we had was something truly special, and definitely worth fighting for.
I knew that in some small way she still loved me.
She even told me after we'd been apart for awhile that she regretted breaking up with me, and that part of her still loved me.
She played me a song that said something about the flame hadn't died yet, and that she wasn't giving up on us.
So you see, she came back to me! And the truth is it never would have happened if I hadn't tried THE MAGIC OF MAKING UP.
So if you believe your relationship is worth saving I encourage you to try this.
IT WORKS! I'm living proof.
But first and foremost don't forget to love yourself.
Otherwise you have very little to bring to a relationship.
I am now finding that out.
P.
S.
Although my ex came back to me, We both decided it was not the right time for us to be together.
I still had a lot of work to do on me...
and she had work to do on herself.
But something tells me that we will be together again.
Just not right now, because two people who are not whole cannot have a whole relationship.
THE MAGIC OF MAKING UP.