If your girlfriend dumped you but you still love her, the burning question on your mind has to be "How do you get her back?" You don't want her to move on and start dating someone else.
But if she just broke up with you a few hours or a few days ago, the breakup seems so fresh and permanent it's hard to know what to do.
If you say the wrong things it could only push her further away.
So here are two mistakes you need to avoid at all costs if you want to get your girlfriend back sooner rather than later.
One, stop giving all of the power to your girlfriend.
If your girlfriend dumped you, the balance of power in the relationship is different now than it was before the breakup.
Now she has all of the power, and you have none.
After all, if you want her back and she's the one who dumped you, then she is the one who gets to make the choice of getting back together or not.
With the balance of power shifted like this, it is tempting to throw caution to the wind and beg and plead to get her back.
It feels like if you could just get her to agree to take you back that everything would be better right? Wrong! If you get your girlfriend back out of pity or desperation, she will become extremely annoyed.
She won't look at you the same way ever again.
In fact, she'll look at you as a burden and start to resent you.
Two, don't be at your ex girlfriend's beck and call.
Actually, the second biggest mistake you can make is to drop everything and run to your ex girlfriend every time she wants you.
Because your girlfriend dumped you, it's easy to think that when she calls you it's because she wants to get back together.
But sometimes, girls will call you after the breakup because they know you will answer.
This goes back to the balance of power again.
Don't be her little puppy dog and don't go to her every time she calls you.
One of the best things you could do right now to get your girlfriend back after she dumped you is to use the No Contact Rule.
That means that you don't answer the phone when she calls.
You don't respond to her texts or emails or Facebook messages.
And, whatever you do, don't call her yourself! Decide right now that you will go for at least a few days without talking to your ex girlfriend.
It will drive her crazy and help swing the balance of power back in your direction.