Are you confused about how to get him interested? Are your efforts at playing hard to get having the desired effect? Do you want to learn how to step up your dating game? Many women make the mistake of believing that playing hard to get means ignoring a few phone calls and pretending to be something they are not.
If you want to get him interested, you first have to learn what hard to get means means.
Some women have simplified the concept of hard to get way too much.
You've probably heard all the advice about pretending to be busy and out of breath when he calls.
Or you've heard that you shouldn't respond right away to a text or email.
While these things are true to a degree, they are not the essence of being hard to get.
Getting him interested is really all about attitude.
How do you feel about yourself, and how do you interact with men as a result? You will not be successful if you just go through the motions of playing hard to get.
You must OWN the attitude! First, when playing hard to get, don't overshoot the goal and come across as impossible to get.
Worse still, don't come across as conceited or condescending.
Unless a man is that way himself, arrogance is a big turn off.
If a man thinks you are impossible to get, he will give up and move on.
He needs to know that he has a reasonable chance at success with you.
Men experience feelings of rejection too, so don't be demeaning or critical.
Acting like men aren't worth your time will just leave you feeling lonely.
Second, a man needs to be convinced that you are worth chasing.
It's not worth the effort if a man thinks you are boring, predictable, negative, controlling, or overly eager.
You want to make him feel that you are special and unique.
You want to create the sense that you are an exclusive club that a man has to be invited to enter.
Beyond that, you want to create a challenging environment that brings out the best in him and inspires him to reach beyond his comfort zone.
Third, avoid falling into a routine with a man.
Sometimes we stop playing hard to get once we've snagged the guy.
But that is no time to quit.
That's the time to take it to the next level.
Nothing kills attraction more than boredom.
This doesn't just mean sexually.
You must constantly challenge him to be the best person he can be.
You also need to keep him engaged and interested in the woman you are.
Keep him guessing about how you manage to always look so beautiful.
Don't wear your green facial mask in front of him and sleep in your flannel pajamas.
Just because you feel comfortable with someone doesn't mean they want to be a part of your hygiene routine.
Remember, getting him interested is an attitude more than a set of rules.
And it lasts a lifetime.
You want to keep a man thinking how amazed and lucky he is to be with you.