There is nothing worse than the end of a relationship.
You put in so much time and effort and suddenly it's gone.
One day your partner says you need to talk.
We all know what that means.
You hope that it's about anything else, but it never is.
It's over.
They are walking out the door and you are all alone.
Or maybe they just moved out and left you a note.
Or a text message.
Or just a Facebook status update.
And now you are heartbroken.
What can you do? It's a completely natural feeling.
We have all been there before, but that doesn't make it any easier.
You really have two options at this point.
You can try to save the relationship or you can move forward into the single life.
Right now I am sure you just want to save your relationship.
You should realize that every relationship is salvageable.
If it's what you want, then it's possible.
You are going to have to put in some real effort to change your ex's heart.
If you are willing to work hard and change, then the first thing to do is come up with a strategy.
So many people try to reenact a movie.
We have all seen where a huge romantic gesture saves a dead relationship in a movie, but you aren't living in a movie.
Things that seem amazing in a movie just don't work in real life.
How many girls want a guy to show up outside her house at two in the morning blasting Peter Gabriel on a stereo? Most girls I know would call the police.
If you want to mend your broken heart, you should first take a little time for yourself.
You need to separate reality from all of your emotions and just relax.
Often just a few weeks apart will make your ex start to miss you.
Maybe the relationship wasn't perfect, but being alone is very different from being in a flawed relationship.
After a little time apart, you should be ready to demonstrate that you are willing to change.
So when it's time to talk to your partner again you should have a real strategy.
The first thing you should do is try to figure out what the flaw in the relationship was.
There are so many possible culprits - communication, money, work or maybe you just grew apart.
All of these things happen in relationships all the time and that's ok.
There is a ton of advice on the internet about how to get your ex back into your life.
The real challenge is to separate the good from the bad.
The best way to do that is to talk to other real people.
See what their experiences were.