In every day conversations it is noticeable that some people are just drama lovers.
Some people just thrive on drama.
It is like the gas in their car and when it putters out they get a refill.
Even movie lovers thrive on more complicated drama which spikes the ratings.
One might ask what is the purpose of drama in a meaningful relationship.
Drama is similarly described as the "hype" around something.
An example of a story drama might be one where a person is cut off in traffic or spoken to in a disconcerting way and that person feels the adrenaline of the story and the need for telling that story to coworkers and friends.
In a relationship though the person may seek out drama as a wrong look, a tone in another person's voice, or disagreement to fuel more drama.
Needing drama can actually cause a withdrawal of it in certain circumstances for someone whose relationship is otherwise status quo.
You no doubt have heard the old saying that the more passion behind an argument, the more passion there is in the bedroom.
That idea relates to the passion within an argument being fueled by passion or fueling the passion between two lovers in other areas of their relationship.
This might be carrying the drama from one area of our lives into another.
Beginning to notice the level of drama in your life is the best way to tell if your relationship is too dramatic.
Notice how the drama might be affecting you and when the need arises in you to bring drama into the relationship.
You can also start noticing the drama in others with which you interact in day to day activities by their storytelling and mannerisms and how it is being perceived by you.
This subject is one to be eased into softly because it requires first that you can become an observer of yourself, belief systems and ways of being.
Take note of the stories you tell others and how they are being told.
Take note of which stories are important to you and why they are important.
Take note of any patterns to be noticed here.
The next step is to decide once you have observed the drama in your life if it is too dramatic for reason.
Are you getting upset over things that do not require so much drama? If there is too much drama in your life find out exactly where it is coming from.
If it is coming from another person then you have a decision to make as to whether you will continue to engage in that dramatic relationship with them.
If the drama is coming from you then decide whether it is important enough to keep dramatizing so many things in your life.
It is also notable that many people blame their drama on outside circumstances that seem to be out of their control such as something someone did to them.
Victims can also play a very dramatic role by telling their story of woe.
If the drama is serving you well and worth keeping then so be it.
However, if you can take advice from Bryon Katie's method called "The Work" by asking who would you be without your story, then you might find a less dramatic and more contented person living inside you.
Now that person may take some getting used to.