So, you want to know how to tell if your spouse is cheating? Just be aware, before we go any further, of the consequences of finding out the truth, more precisely, if they really are cheating.
Take pen and paper and write down the consequences of finding out that they are cheating.
Ok, if you still want to find out, here are some pointers: 1.
Who are they calling? Let's dive straight in at the deep end here.
You need to find out if they're calling anyone regularly, who's not on your social list.
You can do this 2 ways.
1.
Check their bill, look at who they are phoning and texting.
2.
Check their email and see who they've been in contact with.
The first option may not be possible, particularly if you don't have access to their mail, or more importantly, an itemised bill.
If their phone used to be itemised but isn't now, this could be a sign of cheating.
The second option most definitely is possible.
If they are covering their tracks, and leaving no trace as to who they have been emailing, this is suspicious, but not proof.
However, what you can do is install some key logger software that tracks keystrokes, working anonymously in the background on her computer.
This will tell you exactly who they have been talking to! 2.
Where are they? Lovers obviously want to be together.
Is your spouse spending more time out of the house? You need to be careful here, this does not necessarily signify cheating.
Have they been promoted at work, meaning they have to work longer hours for example? When they do go out, are they looking like they are making a special effort over their appearance? If you are out together, do they leave you for short periods of time, having not done so in the past? This could signify a clandestine phone conversation or texting session.
If you have access to their phone bill, make a note of the times of day they left you, and see if this tallies with any calls made at that time.
3.
Are they taking more pride in their appearance than usual? A bit of a giveaway this.
As our relationships with our spouses progresses, many of us start to take each other for granted.
This is often reflected in our appearance.
We stop making an effort.
A spouse who suddenly starts to take more of an interest in her appearance, when they are going out without you, may be an important sign in answer to how to tell if your spouse is cheating.