When two people break up, it's a very trying experience for one if not both of them.
There are many emotions to deal with, sadness, depression, hurt, anger, and feelings of loss.
It's hard to think straight let alone make any sense of what just happened.
What did I do wrong, what can I do to make it right, how did it come to this are just a few questions you might ask yourself.
There are blogs and forums all over the web chock full of advice and on how to deal with this situation.
Things like don't worry he or she will realize they made a mistake and will come crawling back.
He or she isn't worth worrying about; there are plenty of fish in the sea.
But what do these people know about me, and my feelings.
How can these outside entities understand my situation? Common sense would say that they can't, and don't, they have no idea how much I miss my ex and want to get back together.
It's up to me; my actions alone will give me the best chance to make up with the one I love.
In this trying time, the above feelings make sense but if you really want to give yourself the best chance of making up, here's some real good advice.
Don't pretend to be someone or something your not, you've been together awhile and your ex knows who you are.
Don't pretend that you're over your ex if your not, your ex will be able to see right through your deceit and deceit is probably part of the reason your in this situation in the first place.
Don't pretend you're seeing someone else to provoke jealousy in your ex; jealousy may work sometimes but also may backfire and blow any chance you may have of getting back together.
Lets look back at the actions displayed in the last paragraph, not being truthful, being deceitful, provoking jealousy.
Would you want to be with someone who displayed those characteristics? I wouldn't, and neither would your ex.
You need to work at being the kind of person your ex would want to be with.
You need to be honest and truthful about your feelings toward your ex and that you are really ready to make a profound effort in winning them back.
Honesty and truthfulness with your ex will evoke memories of the way things were in the beginning of your relationship and rekindle feelings of what drew you together in the first place, thus upping your chances of getting back together.
The above advise is just the beginning of what could be a long process, but take it from me it will be well worth your time.
I've been in your exact shoes, thinking to myself "I miss my ex so much", what can I possibly do? But rest easy because I took these same first steps when I lost the love of my life and had no idea if they would work or not.
But they did, and were happily ever after.
If you really want to get back together give it a try, you really have nothing to lose.