Your boyfriend dumps you...
Your heart aches, your mind races, and you feel like you're losing the only important thing in the whole world.
But then those words leave his lips, and you grab onto them like a drowning victim grabbing a life-preserver: "Let's still be friends".
Sounds great, right? Maybe you don't have to lose him after all.
You and your boyfriend can still talk...
email each other...
text-message back and forth.
Once the awkwardness wears off, you can even hang out together, like good friends do.
And why not be friends anyway? You get along, share the same interests, and have a lot in common.
In time, you might even fall back in love.
After being around each other so much, your boyfriend will surely remember how great things were between you...
he'll scoop you in his arms, plant a big kiss on your lips, and tell you how much he missed you.
Right? Well, sure.
Maybe in the movies.
In the real world however, such a scenario is total fantasy.
The chances of getting your ex boyfriend back if he just wants to be friends is slim to none.
Most women don't realize this - they think just being around an ex boyfriend will solve all of their problems.
They cling to the idea of platonic friendship thinking it will somehow lead back to romance.
But the truth is, transitioning from friends back to boyfriend and girlfriend again just doesn't happen.
Friends to lovers? Sure.
That does happen.
In a moment of weakness, you'll give in and sleep with your ex boyfriend.
And you know what? It'll be great, too.
You'll have missed each other both physically and emotionally, and it'll be some of the best sex the two of you have ever had.
But then you wake up the next day, your ex is gone.
Your phone doesn't ring, your email inbox is empty, and there are no messages left for you.
At this point you've given your ex boyfriend everything: companionship, friendship, a person to talk to...
and now sex, too.
He has everything he had during your relationship together, without the pressure of screwing it up.
After all, he's not your boyfriend.
He doesn't have to call, or stop by, or even remain loyal to you.
He's just a single guy - a friend with benefits - someone who's hanging and laughing and sleeping with you.
But in the end, you're left alone where it really counts.
Ironically, you'll read lots of advice out there about how to "successfully" be friends with your ex boyfriend.
These guides don't mention the awkwardness and jealousy you'll feel once your ex starts moving on with a life that doesn't include you in it.
They don't mention you sitting home alone while he's out having a great time with new people.
They don't talk about how you'll slowly drift apart as your ex starts dating someone else - someone who keeps him as far away from your as possible.
Getting an ex boyfriend back requires a lot more than friendship.
It requires an actual effort made on your part, and a plan of attack.
You can definitely get you boyfriend back after breaking up...
but you can't do it while trapped in the role of his platonic friend.
Instead, you need to break off such a friendship and start working toward winning your ex back as a girlfriend, a lover, and a romantic interest - not as his buddy.
There are ways of working your way back into your boyfriend's heart again, but none of them have anything to do with staying friends.
There are techniques for reinserting yourself back in his life again, and for changing the way your ex boyfriend currently looks at you.
By reversing his thinking, you can actually get him interested in dating you again - as a real girlfriend, and not just as someone cool to hang out with.
But none of these methods can be worked from an angle of friendship.