So, you are going through a breakup, now what? First of all beware that your stress level is higher than normal.
Your first reaction might be to get back at your ex, right? But this is not the best step to take at this time.
Likely not, this will only pull you further away.
I will share a few tips with you to help you repair your relationship instead.
First of all, slow down the communication process.
If you have been begging, you need to stop doing so immediately.
You do not want to come across as lost and desperate.
You are much better off behaving as if you are getting along just fine on your own.
By doing this, your ex is going to realize that maybe it is them that has not moved on from the breakup.
Slowing down the communication process will allow both of you some breathing room.
Time to put things in perspective.
Be kind.
There is no need to be overly aggressive or mean to your ex.
Do not place unnecessary demands on them like forcing them out of the apartment, or giving them a time ultimatum to remove their belongings or giving you back your belongings.
Listen actively to what your ex has to say and be sympathetic of her feelings.
Your ex will be very surprised by this behavior, in a pleasant way.
It will likely make them curious as to your change and want to be around you more.
Be sure that during this time, you do not become a total home body.
It is important that you be with your friends in social settings.
You need to get back in the game.
That does not mean that you need to go out on a date.
You simply need to be enjoying yourself in various places with your friends.
This will also send your ex a message that you are strong and that you are moving forward with your life.
Your ex will then begin to think about you and may want to begin communicating with you.
These tips will get you started on your way back.
Take your time and allow things to develop.
You will be surprised how quickly things can turn around when you know what to do.
Some expert advice never hurts!