Getting dumped by your partner is heart ranching, but it becomes an even more traumatic experience when your lover leaves you without any reason.
When "they" leave you with no explanation, it has a seriously negative impact on your emotional health as you are left with no closure.
With so many questions left unanswered, the task of moving forward can seem daunting and the pain can leave your heart and soul crippled.
Even in the darkest times, you must understand that in each experience, whether positive or negative, there's always something to learn from it and it's as an opportunity for self-growth.
Like most things in life, there is no "one stop solution" to recovering from a breakup.
However, there are some steps that if you take, will seriously hasten the process of going back to your old confident self, or perhaps a new better you.
The first thing in order is to grieve.
Don't be angry for grieving for someone who has left you, this is about respecting your feelings and you don't need justification for what or how you feel.
Everyone deals with pain differently, but if you have to go through the entire stages of grieving (grief, denial, anger, bargaining, and depression and finally, acceptance), then so be it.
Some days you may feel happy as any day but a familiar song can completely crush you, some days it will be a familiar place, and there will be many other things that will trigger you to think of your ex girlfriend or boyfriend.
Surround yourself with friends and family.
Try your best to never stay alone and when you are alone, keep yourself busy with something productive or just something fun.
No amount of alcohol or drugs can replace the love and support your family and friends will provide you.
In some serious situation you may need to seek help from a professional.
When you feel like your back is against the wall, don't hesitate to get help and start the healing process.
The world is so much bigger than you think and there is so much to do out there.
Remember, you have much to look forward to in the future and this is just a phase you have to ride out strongly.
Secondly, you must hold your head up high and respect yourself.
Refrain yourself from hasty phone calls or text messages out of desperation.
If you feel that you need to communicate with your ex, that's fine, but I urge you to ask yourself what you want to get out of the verbal exchange.
Give yourself the time to figure out what you would like to say and or ask, because once the words come out of your mouth, there is no taking them back.
Speak to friends who you've always known to be reasonable and generally unbiased.
Run by that trusty friend about the things that you would like to say to your ex, and this friend will inject some reason to your emotionally charged mindset.
Whether your ultimate goal is to get your ex back or get over them, disrespecting yourself will not help in either case.
Regardless of your intensions, seeing it through in a dignified manner is the best way to go about your business and it's also the right way.
If you have successfully taken the first two steps, then it's perhaps time to learn from this experience and grow from it.
You may never hear from your ex about the reason why he or she had left you so badly and suddenly, but you can always re-examine your relationship and especially because by the time you take this step, you would have a clear head.
Maybe you hurt your ex badly and you didn't even realize it, or maybe there was as problem brewing but you decided you'd ignore it.
The point is, when the storm has passed and the sky is clear, you will see things much clear.
Learn from your past mistakes because nobody is perfect and no relationship is perfect, and make sure you never make the same mistakes again.
You should be proud of yourself and be at peace with yourself because the breakup hurt so badly for you have loved passionately.
This rush of agonizing pain is only because you were true to yourself and your partner.
You should cherish your memories with your ex lover, but it may be time to make new memories with someone new who is waiting for you somewhere out there.
Until the day you say "I do", there will be more breakups and heart breaks.
You can choose to remember your past relationships as failures, or you can choose to remember them as what they really are, and that's your beautiful memories of having loved.