Dealing with infidelity in a relationship leaves you at an emotional crossroads.
You have to decide if it is over or if you want to see if the trust you once had can be restored.
If you decide it is over, then I do not think anyone can really blame you for your decision.
It is very hard to get past that kind of betrayal.
If you decide to try to work things out, then dealing with infidelity is going to force you to answers some tough questions.
Why Did The Affair Happen? When dealing with infidelity, you need to know why the affair actually happened.
If the person who cheated was getting everything that they were looking for out of the relationship, they probably would not have been as tempted to have an affair.
This by no means excuses what has happened.
Were the two of you spending enough time together? Were you together too much? Was the physical aspect of the relationship good for you both? These are just a few of the questions you will be faced with when dealing with infidelity.
What Changes Need To Be Made? There are certain changes that need to be made so that dealing with infidelity is only going to be a one time occurrence.
You should never have to deal with this more than once.
Changes in the attitude your partner has towards this issue need to be made and their actions need to back this up.
Counseling may be in order and probably would not hurt.
The trust you once had in each other can be restored, but it will take time and will not be easy.
Forgiveness is not always just an apology away.
It is even possible that when all is said and done your relationship may become stronger in the long run.