The end of a marriage is a very difficult and trying time.
Especially if you don't want it to be over.
There are people that get back together every day and live out the rest of their lives though.
So how did those women do it and how can you get your husband back.
Here are three tips that will get you started taking your first steps to bringing your husband back to you.
Tip 1 - Emotions Are Your Enemy Now chances are that you have already had a few outbursts of emotion.
This is fine and don't worry about it.
You are hurt and angry and in pain.
Everyone has this reaction.
What we need to do now is control it.
If you want to get your husband back then emotional outbursts of any kind are the enemy.
You don't want to cry in front of him anymore.
No yelling and screaming.
No text messaging or calling.
Just reduce your contact to what is absolutely necessary for right now.
If you find yourself needing to cry then make sure that it is not in front of him.
The last thing that you want to do right now is appear needy or depressed.
Remember when you first got together and you were neither of these things.
That is who you are again.
You are strong and independent.
Tip 2 - You Are Happy & Busy Going right along with avoiding any kind of emotional outburst we now need to project the right image.
The first thing for this is that you are active and happy.
You have your own life.
You like your life and it is keeping you very busy.
Go out with your friends every now and then and do some stuff that you enjoy.
This is an important part of the equation.
He needs to see you for the person that you are.
If all you are showing is the pain and sadness from the break up then he is not really seeing you.
He is just seeing the side effects of some pretty intense emotional pain.
You want to show him that you are just fine without him.
Even if you don't really feel that way.
Show him how you would be if he had never done this and you were not hurting inside.
When you do have contact with him then be friendly and polite.
Do not be extremely interested in what is going on in his life though.
As soon as he sees that you are no longer emotional.
That you are happy and active.
That you are busy and have plenty of stuff going on in your life.
Well then those little wheels in his head are going to start turning.
He is going to start getting interested.
He is going to want to know what is going on with you.
Have you met someone? Why are you happier now? What are you doing with your time? Why were you too busy to meet him for coffee the other day.
Basically you will start drawing him back to you.
As his interest increases then the closer he is going to want to get.
This is too early though.
You just keep building interest for a while.
Which brings us to tip 3.
Tip 3 - Play Hard To Get After you have built up his interest and he wants to know what is going on with your life then you may get some temptation.
When he wants to meet you for coffee, put him off.
Tell him you are too busy right now.
Maybe he can call back next week and you can try to meet up then.
When he first approaches the subject of getting back together then you play hard to get.
Be hesitant.
You have other things going on in your life.
You still have a lot to think about.
Don't just come out and say no.
But don't say yes either.
Just let him know that you are not ready to take that step yet.
Saying yes on the first time is almost always a mistake.
This usually ends up with a very brief period that you will get back together before splitting up again.
You need to drag this out for a little while and make sure that his interest continues to grow.
After a month or so then you can offer to go out on a date with him and see how it goes.
When you first met then you would not have immediately stepped up your relationship to intimacy and marriage.
You have to treat the reconciliation phase just the same as dating.
Don't move to fast because sudden moves can ruin everything.
Following these steps can get you off to the right start and greatly increase your chances to get your husband back.
You have to move forward cautiously though.
Make sure that you keep your emotions covered up and drive interest.
Remember that making up is more like dating than anything else so take it slow.