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Great communication plays a vital role in great marriages Great communication in marriage is a crucial link in the long-term well-being of the marriage.
It cannot be stressed enough how satisfactory communication can play such a vital part in fostering marriage relationships.
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The power of mutual trust and respect Great communication comes from deep mutual respect between spouses.
Spouses who respect each other generally communicate very well together.
There is no expression of impatience and irritation.
Respect is consequently very important in the whole marriage equation and such respect must not be eroded by major breaches of trust.
This is extremely important in maintaining the sanctity of marriage relationships and it cannot be stressed enough why trust, loyalty and faithfulness remains the breeding ground for such great communication.
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Check the root causes of communication problems If your marriage is suffering from problems in communication, go back and examine the root causes of such problems.
If you do this frankly and openly with your spouse, you can make constructive attempts to re-build the walls of respect and you will probably succeed if there have not been breaches of relational unfaithfulness.
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Find 'niche' time for constructive communication Without good communication, relationships cannot keep their sanctity.
This is why couples should take time off where the cares and pressures of the world do not interfere with the communication that they have.
The provision of time for such specific communicative interaction is very important.
Weekly sessions set aside for this purpose as well as holidays set aside over the longer-term are very important to achieve this end.
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Great communication is a prerequisite of great sex Great communication should also be extended into the bedroom of married couples.
Unfortunately, most Asian couples do not indulge in too much communication in their sexual act together.
All too often, each spouse has to grope around to discover the likes and dislikes of each other sexually.
Such seeking and guessing is bad for any physical relationship.
Sex is best enjoyed when there is a clear communication channel established very early in the relationship.
There should be as little guesswork as possible in lovemaking.
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The different needs of men and women needs to be bridged The agreement to communicate openly is vital to a strong sexual relationship.
The problem is further compounded by the different physical make-up of men and women.
Men are excited easily and when their urge is strong, their priority is release.
In such an environment, ejaculation comes relatively quickly.
The woman's physical make-up requires her to be stimulated much longer.
This much longer time-frame requires the needs of the woman to be communicated very clearly to the man because he has got to make a lot of adjustments to bring mutual satisfaction to both partners.
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Sacrifice and suppression of one party's needs is bad Unfortunately after the man hits ejaculation, his first thought is to turn over and relax.
It would be very unnatural for him to continue bringing his spouse to a climax after his release.
It would require much giving for him to be able to do this.
Without clear communication of each other's needs and level of stimulation, the woman will often be left without her climax.
Over time, the suppression and sacrifice would bring about a deep level of frustration in that relationship.
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Know the responses - communicate to find out All marriages to remain vibrant should be assessed much like a "debrief" after the act.
An artful husband will always ask his spouse if she has been thoroughly satisfied and he should stress that the answer should be honest.
If she says, "well, I am OK" or " I am quite happy", that man should know that such answers are a clear indication of his inability to bring his woman to a climax.
A woman who has been completely satisfied would not use such "maybe" terms.
Only clear communication can remove such feelings of relative failure.
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Know the benefits of a truly satisfied partner - the rewards are great The erasure of such unhappy elements in a marriage relationship should be the aspiration of every committed spouse.
It is really worth the effort to improve the sexual relationship substantially.
A satisfied woman would do anything for her man.
It would do any man well to be the best lover to his spouse.
In return she would be the best lover to him.
Remember, great unencumbered communication is the beginning of a great love relationship!