"Till divorce do you part"; but that's only going to happen if you don't do everything you are about to read, because these tips will show you how to reverse a divorce! I strongly suggest that you carefully implement these next 5 tips, because they are going to help you stop a divorce from occurring: Listen To Your Partner - They are handing you divorce papers (or are threatening a divorce) for a reason.
It's because you haven't LISTENED to them, and now they are taking action to FORCE you to listen! What exactly do you have to listen to? THEIR requests, that's what.
Your partner has been trying to get you to do certain things, and stop doing other things; that's all you have to do now I start taking action and listening to what they are asking of you! Change First, Talk Later - Talk is cheap.
If you always say you are going to do things, but never do, what value do your words or actions really have then? Now is the time for change, and although you can't change overnight, you have to show that you are at least starting and are TRYING.
Your partner is literally ready to divorce you, so you don't have room to simply SAY you're trying or simply SAY you'll change; it's all about ACTION now.
Let Your Partner Air Everything Out - Your spouse harbors a lot of disappointment, pain/hurt, mistrust, and plenty of other feelings toward you, all because you have done things which caused this.
Ask your partner to air out the dirty laundry here, and be OPEN to hearing criticisms, judgments, arguments and all kinds of things.
Sometimes, a partner feels that they are not understood, heard, or accepted in a relationship; and that's because the other spouse never lets them win an argument, never admits they are wrong, and never apologizes.
This time, your partner will be 100% correct, and YOU will be 100% wrong.
This time, you will NOT argue or fire back any insults, but instead will patiently listen and will address things only as an acknowledgment that you know you hurt them and are sorry.
Don't Expect Your Partner To Change - As you are diligently working to fix the relationship, you may notice that your partner is doing the EXACT opposite.
Your spouse may be getting more agitated, may be arguing even more etc...
but you need to put your expectations for them to change aside for now.
You cannot impress anything on your spouse right now, especially any expectations on your end; because they are the ones who are relying on YOU to fulfill their expectations first.
Support Your Spouse - Instead of disagreeing and telling them that you will not support their decisions or ideas; come through this time and stand behind them.
Emotionally support them by listening, understanding, and hearing them out.
Physically support your spouse by helping them out where they need it if they need it, and generally support your spouse by taking their side and standing beside them as they try to heal.