Breaking up is never easy, just ask Neil Sedaka.
As he puts it, "breakin' up is hard to do.
" Now that it is over, though, maybe you realize you were wrong for talking to your ex that night at the Christmas party.
Or maybe you shouldn't have gone out with your friends until four in the morning.
And now you want your man back.
It's okay, take a deep breath and dry your eyes.
Here are some wonderful tips that will make him want you back in his life and back in his loving arms.
1.
Get Your Emotions In Order It is time for you to face the facts.
If it was you who made the boo-boo resulting in the break up you have no right to get angry if he walks past you with another girl on his arm.
Take a moment to get your emotions in order.
Stop feeling sorry for yourself, take responsibility for your actions and realize anger solves nothing.
You will never make him want you back in his life unless you do this.
Chances are he is only doing this to spite you anyway...
to get revenge for hurting him.
Learn it, know it, live it.
Once you do, you can move forward with your plan.
2.
Take the High Road Okay, so you experience moments of desperation.
You want him to speak to you just once so you can tell him how much you love him, need him and want him.
You cry every night just longing to hear his voice.
Oh the pain.
BONK! This is pathetic behavior when trying to win back his heart and make him want you back in his life.
Yes, you hurt.
However, no man likes a desperate, clingy, needy woman.
Begging him to take you back is only sabotaging your efforts.
Hold your head high instead and be the confident, secure woman he fell in love with in the first place.
3.
Change You Do not make any excuses for yourself or your actions.
If you want to make him want you, then be the you he needs you to be.
No, do not change yourself for him, rather make positive changes for yourself.
If you were once loyal and sweet, and then lost that part of you along the way, find it again.
He needs to see these changes in you if you have any chance at reconciliation.
4.
Create a New Life Without Him Although the point is to make him want you back, you absolutely have to realize that two people cannot have a happy life together unless they are happy with themselves first.
You have to have the ability to create happiness for yourself, by yourself.
Once you have this part licked, he will not be able to deny the positive change in you.
You will be irresistible to him.
5.
Show Him Sincerity When you are finished working on you and you have your emotions in check; when lashing out in anger is no longer an issue...
once the desperate you is gone and is replaced with a solid, confident and happy new you, then and only then should you approach him.
When you know you are being honest and sincere with both him and yourself, then it is the right time to tell him how much you want him to want you back.
Ask him to take a walk with you, or to have a cup of coffee at a quiet cafe.
Tell him where you went wrong, and about the changes you have made.
But above all, be a good listener--this is the most important part of talking.
Hear him with both your ears and your heart.
He will notice.
If breaking up is so hard to do, then making him want you back should be a little easier.
It is about releasing your pride, your jealousy and your anger, and accepting fault for your part in the play that is life.
Acceptance and change--these are the keys to make him want you back.