If you've come to the end of the relationship road and you know in your heart that it's time to break up, you probably don't know what the best way is of doing just that.
What is the most painless way to break up with someone? How can I do it so that I am not hurting us both? There are a few things you need to keep in mind about breaking up.
1.
Don't ambush.
If you are thinking of breaking up, keep your distance for a few days.
Don't spend every waking moment with the person that you are about to break up with, making them think that everything is ok.
Keep your distance for a few days and don't talk on the phone with them very much.
2.
Make sure you know why you want to break up.
Make a list of all the good and the bad things about your relationship.
If all the bad stuff outweighs the good stuff, then you know it's time to break up.
Keep all the bad things in your head because you are going to have tor remember exactly why it is that you want to break up.
3.
Have "the talk" in person.
Never break up with someone through email, IM, texting or on the phone.
It's degrading and wrong.
Let them know you respect them enough to do it in person.
4.
Make a list of what you want to say to the person you are breaking up with.
When the time comes, talk to them calmly about the things that are bothering you about the relationship and don't give them a chance to interrupt.
They might talk you out of it! Stick to the list and end the conversation on a firm note.
5.
Cut off all contact.
Once you have resolved that you are not going to be together anymore and you have given them back all their things, stop answering their phone calls and do not see them any more.
Cutting off all contact is the best way to move on.