Everyone wants a person to spend their life together with.
We all have so much more fun when we are sharing the things in life that we love with someone that we love.
Notice how much more beautiful the sunrise is with your loved one beside you and how much less painful your sorrow is with a shoulder to cry on.
Unfortunately even when we find this person, breakups are possible.
Some breakups are even necessary.
Many breakups however can be healed.
You can get the love of your life back! Here are 5 tips to get you started.
1.
First clear your mind.
Get your head clear and forget about the things that have gone on between the two of you.
If your mind is preoccupied it will show, you will seem distracted and that is not going to help your plan to get back together.
Just relax and let go of your thoughts.
Don't keep thinking about how badly you want him back, he will sense that and pull back even further.
Just clear your mind of all thoughts about your relationship and you will improve your communications and greatly improve your chances of getting back together soon.
2.
Don't sell out! It's very important that you stay true to yourself.
Often in our desire to get back together with our former love we are willing to do things we would never imagine doing any other time.
Forget those impulses, and do what you know is right for you.
If you sell out in an attempt to get your ex back, they will expect you to be this way forever.
That is not the real you.
This will make you extremely miserable in the future if you do get back together, and you partner will know it is not the real you.
you will never be completely relaxed as you will always be playing a part.
3.
It is time for some changes though.
There are always things that we want to do.
It is a great time to join the gym, lose some weight, or take a class on windsurfing.
Whatever you choose is up to you, make it something that will help you to feel good about yourself.
You need to do something new so that your ex does not see you as the same person that they were trying to get away from.
Change will make you seem vibrant, new, exciting and maybe even mysterious.
4.
Don't forget your past; use it to improve your future.
You and your ex have a past; there is no need to talk about it.
There is also no need to drag your past with you into the future.
What you need to do is take some time to examine the good times and the bad.
Look at the good times to see what was working and the bad to see what was not.
Learn from those times and use them to help build your new future.
5.
Last, make a plan.
Don't just run into the process with all your emotions firing.
That will scare someone away faster than a loaded gun.
Make yourself a plan.
Look at every situation in advance.
Your plan can adapt to changes in how your reconciliation is moving along.
Things can be speeded up or brakes can be applied.
But if you have a plan you will be far more likely to get back together with your ex.