The Aggressive Way: Most heart-broken lovers will naturally use an aggressive way to persuade their ex to come back.
It is not unusual when you are thinking of ways to get your ex to come back, for you to have thought of rushing over to your ex's place and begging them to come back or yelling at them that they need to come back.
This is a straightforward way of attempting to get your ex back which is quite an aggressive and less likely to work.
A more successful aggressive approach would be to go to many events that your ex will be at and show them that you can take or leave their company.
You will be friendly, confident and interesting.
You will show them that you are not pining over them, but you will not be relating to others in such a way as to make your ex jealous.
Playing games tends to backfire and this way can help bring back good memories for your ex and get them to come back but it can also go very wrong if you go overboard.
This is a gamble and if you were investing it would be classed as high risk for high reward.
The Middle Road: This is where you let your relationship cool off and let your ex have time to forget some of the less pleasant memories and start to remember some of the good times with you.
While you give your ex space this is a good time for you to evaluate your past relationship with your ex and look at learning from your mistakes.
Give yourself a mini makeover and be the happy confident person you were at the beginning of your relationship.
Then when you are picking up some signals that your ex is softening toward you, you can then begin to be more assertive in becoming more visible in your ex's life.
Unfortunately, if this goes pear-shaped, it is unlikely that you could even remain friends.
The Conservative Way: This way is one that is usually the last for anyone to think of.
While this way may not be most sure way of getting back with your ex, it is also less likely to go wrong.
If remaining friends with your ex, if all else fails, is important to you, then this way is more likely to do just that.
This way means that you will let your ex "call the shots" about how much contact you have with each other.
If you happen to run into them at a party then be kind and friendly, but do not go out of your way to meet up with them.
Keep your conversation with them honest and light.
You can just say that you think about them but keep it "short and sweet.
" You do not want to go over the top and further push them away, but at the same time, do not deny your feelings.
If they do not know that you still care, they may think wrongly that you have moved on.
However, using the time apart to improve yourself and becoming fun, honest and confident will improve your chances of getting your ex to come back.
They will see the person that they fell in love with the first time, and if nothing else will want to remain friends if they do not come back to you.
Sometimes when you do not take the aggressive way but make the necessary changes in your life, your ex is intrigued that you did not pursue them and this pulls them back to you.
When your thoughts center on getting your ex to come back to you, look for ways to attract them again.
These ways can give you some ideas on how to achieve your goal, and your heart's desire.