In a way it is strange that  the two of you were so much in love at some particular time but are now to be happy of  being rid of one another. May be I am not right because you may say ‘I am still in love with my ex but my ex is not in love with me!' It may comfort you to know that you are  in god company. If you look around, you will see a large number of people like you hankering after their ex lovers, after breaking away from them for some reason.

Therefore, you don't have to feel guilty or embarrassed for feeling this way. It is perfectly alright to feel so. What you should do is to think of an action plan for getting back with your ex. But make sure that you are definitely in love with your ex because sometimes our minds can deceive us. Solitude and frustration may make you feel that you want to get back with your ex but you may not really want this. Taking action on such a mistaken perception of your own wants is bound to make things worse for you. A simple way to verify the correctness of your perception is to think of the times you spent with your ex. How much did you enjoy them? Do you feel nostalgic about those times? Unless the past memories evoke feelings of happiness and fulfillment, do not act on your wishes which may turn out to be just impulsive.

The second thin to check is what your judgment about your ex lover's feelings towards you. How was he or she  feeling while being in your company. Were they passionate or lackluster? If you assess that your ex lover didn't have great feelings for you, then it is not worth acting on your wish to get back with your ex. Either your ex will humiliate you by frustrating your efforts for reconciliation or worse, you will reunite with your ex only to regret this for the rest of your life!

You can get a clear picture about your mind and your ex lover's mind by asking pertinent questions about your feelings during the various phases of your relationship. Even as you are tying to get some answers, the  big picture about your relationship will be flashed onto your mind. You will know whether getting back together with your ex is worth or not.