Are you looking to destroy your marriage? Do you want your marriage end in divorce? Or are you simply trying to create a relationship that brings complete misery to both parties? Well if this is your goal then here is a sure fire way to create a miserable and dead marriage - simply avoid or don't resolve conflict.
According to a leading marriage expert Diane Solle of Smart Marriages the number one predictor of divorce is the inability to resolve conflict.
There are lots of reasons couples choose divorce and certainly many paths to get there, but the most common problem in marriages that end in divorce is that they simply are not able to resolve conflict the is inevitable when two people attempt to live happily ever after.
The benefit of resolving conflict in a relationship is actually counterintuitive to most couples who think that if they deal with conflict it could create tension or that if they would just ignore the conflict it will go away.
Instead of going away the conflict and resentment that often follows can grow until a couple feels incredibly isolated from each other and wondering why they every got married in the first place.
Successful couples often report having just as many arguments as those who are not satisfied in their marriages.
The only difference is that rather than sweeping issues under the rug they have learned how to deal with them.
The one thing a couple can count on is the fact that they will have problems in their marriage the difference between those that end in divorce and those that end up being happily married is their ability to resolve conflict in their relationship.