Are you having trouble breaking through your boyfriend's silent treatment? Listen.
I have been on the silent end of that treatment and there is a reason why men do this.
But more importantly, there is a way that you can open the lines of communication once again so that you can start moving forward with your relationship rather than backwards.
If you don't know what to do when your boyfriend isn't talking to you anymore then you need to follow these 7 simple steps.
1.
Seek to understand, then be understood A wise person once said that, although I am not wise enough to know who exactly the person was.
But what I do know from personal experience is that many relationship breakdowns occur when the needs of one or both of the partners is not being met.
Think about your last argument.
What was the fight over? What words were said? Now the important part is to look at the meaning underneath those words.
The fight might start over something that seems trivial but really stems from a deeper need that has been neglected.
2.
Check your emotions at the door This can seem like a tough one, especially when egos are being attacked and protected in the heat of the moment but it is vitally important to your relationship to be able to realize when you've slipped into the 'fight or flight' automatic attack mode.
I am not asking you to live without emotion.
But you should recognize when all of that passion is pushing what you want further away from you.
3.
Breathe Simple and powerful.
If you want to manage your emotions and begin talking with your partner from a position of strength and calm then remember to take a few deep breaths before entering the room.
  Your mind, voice, and presence will take on an attractive rather than repulsive energy.
4.
Balance the books If your boyfriend isn't speaking with you then this is not the time to think of ways that you can get even with him.
  Giving him the silent treatment in return may feel good in the short-term but does very little to help develop the relationship.
  This is the time for you to take an honest look at yourself and what is really happening in this relationship.
  This does not mean to blame yourself but it is an opportunity to look at all the good and bad points to determine if you would even want to talk to him again.
5.
  Self-love is the best love Even if you don't receive this powerful message in a fortune cookie you can still apply its wisdom.
  If your boyfriend isn't talking to you then why don't you take this new found time to administering some good old fashioned self-love.
  What are those activities that make you glow when you do them?  Hot yoga class, spa treatment, a swim in the ocean?  Engaging in activities that revitalize your mind, body and soul not only put you in a good place but will also remind your boyfriend why he gathered up all that courage to talk to you when you first met.
6.
Drop the desperation You can smell desperation a mile away.
  If you've actually done the first 5 steps then it is unlikely that you'll have that stench around you at this point so this is just a friendly reminder that if you want to attract someone back you need to make sure that you don't stink.
7.
  Reboot your relationship Once you've opened the lines of communication your job isn't over yet.
  Reconnecting with a partner that has lost interest or trust, even if it is for a short period, requires care and the right approach.
  Remember what you've learned from the whole experience and use it to develop a deeper and more loving relationship.