It is very common for men to feel at odds with their wives, in fact they often wonder if they are even speaking the same language.
It seems as though no matter what they do or say, they land themselves in hot water, often leading them to a divorce.
You may be one of these men who has found himself on the brink of a divorce and you don't even know what you did wrong.
First and foremost, you need to know that it takes two to tango, so don't blame yourself, it is not all of your fault, and two, men and women are very different, and by simply learning a few common traits about women and truly understanding them, you will be able to save your marriage.
Your marriage does not need to end in a divorce when the cause is relatively trivial, in fact, many divorced couples are unable to pin point the exact reason for their breakup and will often give a general reason like they grew apart or fell out of love.
If you fall into this category then you stand a very good chance of saving your marriage.
The key to a successful reconciliation is to learn to understand the signals that your wife gives.
It is like trying to live in a foreign country, you need to understand the culture and language first if you want to fit in.
I'm not saying that marriage is a one way street, it is just as important that women take the time to understand their husbands too, a successful marriage requires the effort from both individuals.
The good news is that if just one of the individuals takes the lead in the marriage and makes some positive changes, the other person will naturally want to do the same.
The Silent Treatment The first thing you need to understand is that when a woman gives the silent treatment, it is very different from when a man does the same.
You see, when a man is silent it is simply because he doesn't have anything left to say.
When a woman gives the silent treatment, however, it actually means she is screaming on the inside but is trying to punish you by not speaking to you.
It means she is harbouring something on the inside and it is your first clue that something is wrong.
When your wife gives you the silent treatment that is your cue to think back over your recent actions, did you say or do something to hurt her feelings? If you can't figure it out then simply ask her.
Do not ignore her or try to pretend you don't notice her not talking to you, this will only fuel the fire more.
Don't Blame it On PMS Whatever you do, don't start assuming you wife is in a bad mood because it is that time of month.
You also don't want to say it directly to her either.
While there may be instances where her period is due and she may be moody, you should not discredit her feelings by blaming it on PMS, it will only make her feel more hurt, especially if her time of month is not even near.
Your wife may very well have a valid reason for feeling hurt that day, perhaps you said something that hurt her feelings or perhaps you forgot an anniversary that was important to her.
She will definitely feel more loved if you ask her why she is feeling that way rather than blaming it on PMS.
Take Time to Listen Make sure you take the time to listen to her feelings, don't jump in at any chance you get to explain your actions or to argue the point.
Your wife may simply need to let go of some steam.
Perhaps she had a long day with the kids, she is tired and has a headache and just wants someone to listen and understand what she is going through.
Listening goes a long way, it is part of learning about your partner and what they go through during the day.
Although you may be thinking she is rambling on, remember how you feel when you have rough days at the office and then have to fight traffic to get home, you just want to come home and put your feet up.
Women like to be held and cuddled when they are feeling down, it helps them feel secure, loved and that someone cares.
These are just a few tips that will help you understand your wife better and get back to reconciling with her.
If you really want to save your marriage, then you only need to take some time in learning to understand some basic rules about women and how their emotions work.
There are many men who have done just that and have very happy marriages as a result, in fact, they have become the envy of many husbands who don't understand their wives and are not happy in their marriage.