OK, let's do some damage control! You are about to learn the major mistakes (5 in all) that 99% of women in your situation make - and once they do, they lost all chances of getting their ex husband back.
The 5 mistakes that 99% of women in your situation make:
- They use logic to make him come back: You can't reason your way back into a relationship.
No matter what you say or do to remind him of how special what you had was, it simply doesn't work.
Why? Because you're telling his mind - not his heart.
The heart only wants what's 100% authentic. - They send nice cards and/or flowers/gifts: Contrary to popular belief, gifts/cards/flowers do not create attraction.
On the contrary, it tells your ex (or separated) husband that you are not good enough - you offer him things, to hide your emotional flaws. - They behave super-nice to show him "what he is missing" by being away from you: Just remember this: There can be no sparks unless there is friction - you can't go along with everything your ex husband does and says and expect to get him back.
Conflict gives life spice, and a marriage without conflict creates no sparks and is thus destined to die out. - They keep telling him how much they love him: Yet another way to NOT get your ex husband back.
It actually feels natural to keep saying it, but it always makes you appear needy when in this situation.
Why? Because you're not saying "I love you" just because you love him - you're saying it to make him come back.
Again: The heart only wants what is 100% authentic. - They mis-read his signals: More often than not, there comes a time when he will give you a chance to get back together - to work things out.
It is CRUCIAL to read his signals correctly at this juncture.
If you do, you will know when the window is open, and with the right guidance, you will respond exactly how he is hoping you will respond.