- 1). Tell yourself the abuse was not your fault. Patricia Evans, who runs The Verbal Abuse Site, points out verbal abuse has nothing to do with you as a person or your actions toward your partner. Verbal abuse stems from some insecurity or issue your abuser has with himself or his own life.
- 2). Surround yourself with positive people and influences in your life. Family and friends, whom you may have lost contact with while the abuse was occurring, can be a support system for you as you move forward and begin a new life, free from verbal abuse.
- 3). Schedule an appointment with a therapist or counselor to talk about your abusive past. A therapist or counselor can give you an objective perspective on the relationship and abuse. He can help you to talk through your issues and reach a point of closure and acceptance. You will need to reach this point in order to move forward with your life.
- 4). Join a support group for victims of abuse. The National Domestic Violence Hotline can offer you information on groups and other resources in your area. You can also find this information in your local phone book or from your therapist, counselor or local hospital.
- 5). Make and keep a list of all your positive qualities and assets. Read this list whenever you start to feel doubtful or hopeless in life, or if you start to fall back into a negative mindset. This list can remind you of all you have to live for and all you have managed to survive. Remember, you may not forget the abuse, but it does not have to rule your life.
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