Did you know that how you handle a break up scene can affect your chances of winning back your ex? We've all been there.
Your soon-to-be ex tells you they thing you should call it quits, and it feels like a knife straight through the heart.
At such an emotionally painful moment, it's understandable if you react in an extreme way.
But wait a minute.
How you react at that crucial moment can determine if you will ever get back together with them, and how long a reconciliation might take.
So how should you react to keep winning back your ex in the cards? The Wrong Way to React Actually, there's not really a wrong way to react to a breakup.
It's natural to be upset.
So you might do things like begging them to stay, getting angry at them for hurting you this way, or even physically trying to stop them from leaving.
The problem with this behavior is that it makes your ex dig in their heels and take a firmer stand.
It's like tug-of-war.
The harder you pull in one direction, the harder your opponent will pull in the other.
By going to extremes to get someone not to break up with you, you're more likely to make them decide they are making the right choice after all.
And this will make winning back your ex some time down the line a lot harder.
The Art of Acceptance When someone is breaking up with you, your best reaction is to accept it.
Why should you accept a break up when it's the last thing you want? Well, you already know that crying, begging, pleading and getting angry probably won't work, and the break up will happen anyway.
So instead, react in a calm and rational way.
Accept that the break up is going to happen at this moment.
Remember the tug-of-war example from before? By accepting the breakup, and not "pulling on the rope," you give your soon-to-be ex no reason to pull in the opposite direction.
You will still breakup.
But it will be an amicable split which will keep you on friendly terms with your ex, and allow you to keep the lines of communication open.
And keeping in friendly, pleasant contact will make winning back your ex later a whole lot easier.