You know what happens when you are in a horrible situation and you lose your control, a volatile aggressive relationship will destroy you! Do you want to live this way? How can you change it? Are You Losing Control? So those horrible times when things are spiraling out of control, you hurt deeply, you don't understand why things are how they are, and you are afraid to speak because you know it will turn into a fight! Your partner is screaming at you and you feel like your head will pop, you feel as if you are just going to explode any minute, get out! Get away before you lose it! Once you do lose it, there may be no going back, you may both say or do something that you will regret for a long time to come, and you may not even be aware of your actions at the time.
When we get into this state we cannot see the wood for the trees, it is impossible to make wise choices or see the situation clearly.
Maybe the situation has been deteriorating for so long that you don't realize how volatile it has become, and you feel overwhelmed with it? Staying calm is all important, but easier said right? The Pain It Causes.
Living in an environment that is volatile is no good for anyone involved.
OK we know that, but how do we deal with it? Well we just have to find a way before we destroy ourselves, our lives and others around us.
This environment strips us of our personal power, and self-confidence, and may hurt for a long time.
The problem is, in a situation like this normal conversation is usually impossible, bitterness and anger win.
You have to get out on your own, get some exercise, fresh air and clear your head.
Put everything you can into physical exercise and get rid of your tension, then get a good nights rest.
When you are rested go find somewhere that you feel safe and at peace, don't beat yourself up or think too hard, relax a while take really deep breaths and still your mind, stay in this state until you eventually start to see things clearly, ask your self, how do you want your situation to turn out, can you see the outcome? Go deep inside yourself and be honest with yourself.
Why are you under this stress? How long have you felt this? Can it get any better? If you need help get some! And What Happens - When You keep Your Cool? Now that you are calm, things look a little different, you can see the bigger picture now, try to figure out what brought you to this state, you are clear minded now, promise yourself to remain calm, if you are calm it is likely that others will be too, do not allow anyone to scream at you, walk away.
If others are willing to talk go ahead, explain to them that you cannot live this way, it is important to deal with this situation sensibly.
Everyone feels safer talking through problems when they are calm and less volatile.
So What Lies Ahead? You must agree to work at this, both must promise not to say anything in the heat of the moment, have a strategy for regaining the cool, go and explode in the gym, then come back and explain calmly what is hurting you.
If This Fails? If you cannot work together like this then you have to do something else.
This kind of life is no good for anyone, life is too short to live in pain.
Stress makes us ill, it is a killer, find your calm and work with it daily until it remains with you always, and do not let others take away your power!