You have just broken up and you are hurting really badly from the rejection.
All you can think about is your ex boyfriend moving on with his new life and being with another girl.
So you are wondering if you should play a few tricks on him.
You remember how much he hated it when he thought you were flirting with his best friend.
So why not remind him of it, and make your ex boyfriend jealous? When you are struggling to cope with a breakup that is not of your choice, it's tempting to think about turning the tables on your ex by making him regret breaking up.
You feel you will have a chance to get back at him for hurting you, and it might spur him into wanting you back too.
Surely it must be worth a try? Well, first of all, you cannot be certain what his initial reaction will be.
Will you be able to convince him that you really are seeing another man? Unless there is some basis in reality to make him believe it, he may just think you are pretending or making it up, which he will see as an act of desperation.
Obviously this will not help you at all.
But what if you can convince him that it's true? What have you got to lose? Should You Make Your Ex Boyfriend Jealous? Quite a bit, as it happens.
Although it can be very effective to make your boyfriend aware of the possibility of you finding someone else, you may get quite a different reaction if he believes you have actually done so.
If your boyfriend still has any feelings for you, he will hate the idea of you being with another man - to him it will feel as if you have cheated on him.
The fact that he has forfeited the right to think that will not change how he actually feels.
Many men find it all but impossible to forgive a woman who has cheated on them.
It awakens all sorts of primitive and primeval emotions about invasion and possession.
When a man falls in love, he makes an emotional investment in you, which is confirmed by your fidelity and loyalty to him.
Your cheating on him tells him - and the world - that he and his love was not enough for you.
So you need to be careful when you parade the threat of finding another man before you boyfriend.
Making him aware that other men are attracted to you can increase your value in his eyes, and make you a more desirable prize that he must win back.
But making him believe that you have actually found someone can mean the end of your relationship.
How Your Boyfriend Sees It Your ex may take it as proof that you have moved on, and that he should do so too and stop mulling over any regrets he might have been having.
It might also confirm in his mind that he was right to break up with you, as you obviously didn't care for him that much.
This may be unreasonable to you - after all, he did the dumping - but where emotions are involved, people are not reasonable.
If you want to get him back, you must be able still to arouse feelings in him.
Using those feelings against him by being with another man will not help your cause.
Arousing his feelings of possessiveness towards you by showing him that you have other admirers is one thing, but letting him know you have chosen one of them is another.
Give him a chance to realise that you have options so that he can do something about it - if that is what he wants.
If you genuinely want him back, then you will save yourself a lot of problems and complications later if you keep other men at a distance.
Remember that while women mind more about emotional infidelity, men mind passionately about physical betrayal.
However unfair you may think he is being, that is the way things are.
So use the jealousy ploy with caution.