How Do I Know If My Ex Is Thinking Of Me? Well, the short form is to ask.
No, really.
There's a lot to be said in favor of straightforward question and answer, with no ulterior motives.
The trick is figuring out the reply.
There are some definite signs to consider.
One of them is whether or not your ex is acting flirty in your general direction.
You might not be out of line, thinking "Is my ex interested in coming back?" Here are some common signs - they're spending time with you, they're taking the time to comment on how you're doing and looking and being complimentary, or they're resuscitating old memories, like "Remember when we did that night in the park...
"However, it's worth your time to take a step back.
You've danced this dance before, and got left on the floor alone.
Play it cool, and play it hard to get (a little bit) so that they're not going to think you're glomming on to them.
They're coming back because they miss you, and they miss you because your life got interesting without them in it, and they want a part of that.
Now, watch out for the natural attractors.
If your prior relationship lasted for nine months or longer, you may find it easy to fall into old habits.
Make a point of setting your boundaries, of making sure that everything you do is set up to cover your interests as a person, rather than suborning them to incipient couple-hood.
If you want to set this up right, you need to keep a life for yourself beyond couple-dom.
Don't leap in too fast.
This isn't to say you shouldn't do this at all; no time to dwell on past regrets, though there's always time to focus on what did and did not work.
Speaking of things that don't work, watch out for an ex that's rebounding and using you as a lily pad before they jump to someone else.
It sucks when it happens, you've seen it done to friends.
Don't let your desire to be with someone, to not be lonely, let it happen to you.
You may find, again, that keeping a small amount of reserve, a quantum of distance, will keep you from being used.
Take the time to build up a feel before you act.
You'll be glad you did, and that extra time will increase your appeal if your ex is trying to take you back into a relationship anyway.
So, no matter what, it's a win-win for you.