In fact many couples never do overcome this and end up miserable together chained in a marriage without passion and intimacy or more commonly these days ...
divorced, but still unhappy as they may still love each other deeply.
Sex may not be everything but it has been proven time and again to be the lubricant that keeps a marriage running smoothly and when a wife or a husband stops wanting to have that physical intimacy and almost spiritual connection with their lover.
The first think you must know to deal with a sexless marriage is that it is NOT your fault! When you married you were lovers not just partners in some contract.
When one stops being a lover then they have the problem that must be investigated.
The key to uncovering whatever issues are weighting so heavily on your spouse that it effects their sex drive is communication.
This may be a glib comment but it is true ...
the real challenge lies in knowing HOW to communicate about these problems.
Some communication tips you can use to deal with a sexless marriage:
- Patience - This may not be a single conversation and it may not go as smoothly as you like.
Communication is an entire process not just a few words. - Body Language - Do not forget that much of human communication is about body language.
When you are communicating with your spouse watch how they react and move and so forth with your conversation and be aware of what you are doing. - Not About You - Do not make your talks about yourself and your problems with the sexless marriage.
This is sure to drive them further away.
Even if you feel like you need to vent about this hold your tongue and continue to make this all about them and their problems not how you are entitled to anything.
Appearing weak or overbearing is a sure turn off sexually and also a conversation stopper.