After a break up everything can feel hopeless as you wonder how you will survive the day. Even with the confused feeling you have over the break up you still have this urge to get back with your ex. As hopeless as it seems there are people that have managed to do just that. So if you want to get your ex back do not think it is impossible.

Now if you tell your family or friends what your intentions are you will probably get advice from them on how to get them back. You should do whatever it takes but be careful about getting advice from just anybody. A lot of the advice may be good but first look at the relationship the advice giver is in.

If the person giving the advice is in a terrible relationship themselves or has been in many short term relationships beware. They may really want to help you but they may not be giving you the best advice, you should look elsewhere.

If someone you know has been in a long term relationship they may be a good source for advice. They must be doing something right themselves to be with the same person for so long. Listen to what they have to say and put to use what you think applies to you.

Wanting to get back with your ex, you may have an urge to run back to them now begging them to come back to you. This is a normal reaction but most likely the wrong move. Your best bet is to wait for a period of time before contacting them. You both need time to get past your bad feelings from the break up.

While you're taking the needed break from your ex look at what you think caused your break up to happen. Swallow your pride and get to the root cause of the problems. You may find you were at fault, if so be honest with yourself. Once you find the real problem then you need to find out how to fix it. If you find your ex was at fault decide how to deal with that also.

You now have to decide if you will forgive them, ask forgiveness or forget it. What the problem was will help you decide which route to take. When you have reached this point then you may be ready to contact your ex. Have a plan laid out and approach them calmly and respectfully.