One of the biggest "secrets" about getting back with an ex girlfriend is, you have to train yourself to see her as being a new woman in your life. That might sound a little strange at first, but one of the things that holds most guys back from actually being able to win back an ex girlfriend is, they don't do the little things to really build up her attraction for them. As much as it might hurt to admit this, when a woman leaves her boyfriend, a lot of it has to do with the fact that the attraction is no longer there.

Here are 3 tips to use that will help you attract an ex girlfriend back to you:

1. Stay away from trying to talk about the past with your ex girlfriend.

Leave the past where it belongs... in the past. It's not the past that will bring back your ex girlfriend, it's the future that the two of you can have together. When you keep bringing up old things, you are also going to stir up old issues and negative feelings as well. You want to make her feel only positive things when she thinks about you, so don't dwell on what already happened.

2. Flirt with her the way that you would a woman you just met.

One of the traps about getting back an ex girlfriend is, you already have a feeling of comfort around her that you would not normally have with a new woman. Some of that tension and suspense is missing and you need to have that present if you are going to bring back that attraction and make her feel like she wants you again. Try to train your mind to see her as you would a new woman and flirt with her in that way.

3. Make your ex girlfriend feel like she has to win YOU over.

If you are too obvious about the fact that you will do anything to win her back, then she already knows that she has you. She does not feel as though she has to do anything at all to try and impress you or make you like her. And that goes against the way that relationships usually start out, at least the good ones. You need to make your ex girlfriend feel like she has to win you over, so that natural urge to impress you is there. It cannot all be one sided if you want things to really work out.