Break ups are never fun, are they? Not when you are sitting there, missing the one you love and wishing that you could just find a way to rewind time and go back to when things made sense. Back when she was your girlfriend and you didn't have to worry about her not being by your side. They tell you that you should just move on and even though you might nod your head in agreement - a part of you knows that this is not what you want to do. What you really want to be able to do is to find a way to win her back.

Is that even a possibility?

Or are you just setting up yourself for disappointment?

I can tell you this - if you were abusive to your ex girlfriend or treated her like dirt, don't expect to be able to win her back no matter what you do. It's just not going to be in the cards for you and you might as well know that upfront. However, if you are a good guy and you really weren't that bad of a boyfriend - then YES, there is hope for you.

That is, if you know what you should be doing right now to get started on winning her back.

Let's look at three things that you DON'T want to do, though:

1. You don't want to give up hope before you have even started.

This is a mistake that is easy enough to make. If you feel like you have tried to convince your ex girlfriend to get back with you already and that didn't do the trick, then you might feel like all hope is already lost. However, that is not the mindset that you need to have if you want to have a good chance of being able to win her back. Mindset matters when it comes to this, it really DOES.

2. You don't want to go and get bad advice from people who mean well.

I am never surprised at just how often guys mess up their chance for winning back their ex girlfriend because they got some bad advice from someone who meant well, but just didn't understand how the process of re-attracting an ex girlfriend really works. A lot of people think they know, but when it comes right down to it, they haven't got a clue. Don't listen to those people.

3. You don't want to make things worse by being an annoyance to your ex girlfriend.

It's really easy to do this and not even realize that you are annoying her until it is too late. What is going to annoy your ex girlfriend? Well, doing things like texting her all of the time, that will surely end up leaving her annoyed with you. Another is to whine about the break up. Most women find a guy who whines to be an annoyance, and even worse - they find it terribly unattractive.