You want to get your ex back and you're not sure how to do it.
The usual advice of apologizing, bringing flowers, or reminding them of the good times just doesn't seem to be working.
What you need are some stealth techniques.
Techniques that will pull your ex toward you, rather than you toward your ex.
Here are some of the best: 1.
You Version 2.
0: An upgraded version of your best self is the first order of business.
Normally when you've been in a relationship for a while, you tend to let your self go.
We all do it.
But to get your ex back, you need to show them the best of what you have to offer.
Show them what they're missing and you'll remind them of the value of what you have to offer.
2.
Stay Busy.
If you want to get your ex back, you have to show them the fun they're missing out on by not being with you.
One thing you need to be doing immediately is to start going out on dates.
This will ensure that you start looking more desirable to your ex, though they may get pretty upset when they find out.
That's ok.
Anger is much better than indifference.
3.
Give your ex room to breathe.
When the breakup first occurs it's very common to resist the breakup or work tirelessly to get them back.
Don't.
It will only drive them further away.
There will be room for discussions later.
For now, you want to back off.
It seems a little strange but to get your ex back you have to first get them gone! 4.
When you begin to talk with your ex again, take it slow at first.
Offer to get together over coffee rather than a full fledged date.
Keep the conversation light.
Have fun! You're looking to simply enjoy each other's company without being weighed down by past issues.
5.
The Irony of Neediness: The more you need someone, the less they're going to want you.
A great tip to get your ex back is to show them you can live without them quite nicely.
When you do get to the point where you're talking about your relationship, you want to make it very clear that you can have a satisfying life without them, you just don't want to.
6.
Get Your But Out.
Get all the but's out of any conversations you have with your ex.
When you apologize and insert the word 'but' into it, it completely negates any of the meaning before it.
For example, I'm sorry I haven't been around but ..
...
" Remember, your goal is to get your ex back, not prove that you're right.
Keep that in mind during all your conversations with your ex.
7.
Instead of focusing on how to get your ex back, focus on how you could have made your relationship better.
Often during a breakup, we become consumed with what we want and don't focus on the true heart of the matter.
Believe me, your ex will be much more appreciative of your insight into your relationship than any flowers or gifts you could give them.