It doesn't matter what you have been told before, you may still be faced with the gut wrenching feeling of of facing your marriage breakup and you're looking for real answers to save your marriage.
The problem you are faced with is having to fix something huge in a short amount of time.
Marriage breakdown over time, not in a day.
You may be threatened with a divorce and you're wondering how do you go about fixing such a huge mess.
In order to get a real shot at saving your marriage, you must throw out old pop psychology that tells you to talk to your spouse.
Better communication will not work at this point.
The marriage need an awakening in order for it can recover.
Your spouse may have walked out on you but rather than trying to talk or send another useless note, here's what is proven to work.
No matter what you are told, it takes guts and extreme self-control to save a marriage.
Not as easy as many make it to be.
Your spouse has already made the emotional journey to detach and you're trying to execute somewhat of a miracle here.
You will remember this, you can only save a marriage when you are in the same emotional space as the person who wants out.
It's counterintuitive but it is true.
No other method will work if you are emotionally powerless.
When you are powerless, you will beg or try to do what you think is the right thing.
You'll want to fight because you believe in love and your marriage.
The desire to want to fight is honorable, but the way to go about it has to be done through logic.
When you read that you should use logic, you will find it difficult to believe that communication will not work.
Stop and do this right now: 1.
Pay the emotional price to emotionally detach or you will kill your chances to save your marriage.
2.
The pain of detachment will be huge but if you can do it, you'll skyrocket your success.
3.
Begin responding to your spouse as if he/she were a stranger you just met.
This does not mean you no longer love your spouse.
Your are trying to increase your chances of saving your marriage by decreasing emotional desperation.
Using logic means you move emotionally away from the person who no longer wants you.
You will find yourself on an emotional roller coaster because it will be extremely difficult to try to detach emotionally.
Your mind will make you think you'll lose more but this is not logically true.
Studies have shown that in order to trigger a psychological desire to save something, one must feel that they no longer have it.
You want your spouse to WANT your marriage but he/she must feel that they don't have the power over YOU.
Also, this doesn't mean you don't love your spouse, it just means that you can have the true strength to do what's right without continuing to make mistakes that will kill your chances.
Take that action now.
The divorce rate skyrocket every year with over 2 million.