Red Flags

• If your spouse demonstrates an unusual interest in alcohol and expresses strong negative reactions if he is unable to drink, he may have a drinking problem, according to the American Academy of Family Physicians. Other signs that may point to the possibility of alcoholism include neglect of the outward appearance, frequent physical accidents and trauma and loss of interest in one's career, hobbies and family. Additionally, most alcoholics have at least one other psychiatric disorder, often involving the mood or personality.
  
  

Bodily Effects

• The physical and emotional ramifications of drinking on a dependent spouse are serious and should not be ignored by either the alcoholic or his family. Along with behavioral problems, alcoholics are at risk of developing mental retardation and experiencing significant difficulties sustaining attention, according to the American Academy of Family Physicians. Physical symptoms of drinking are evident as well; deformities and odd facial features indicate a dependence on alcohol.
  
  

Relational Strains

• Engaging in a relationship with an alcoholic spouse is challenging and often damaging to one's sense of trust. Even the healthiest partnerships are greatly strained by the weight of alcoholism, according to HealthGuide.org. Men and women who are involved with a dependent spouse are continually pressured to compromise their happiness and well-being in order to prevent their loved one from suffering. Pain that results from the ramifications of alcoholism can be long-lasting and difficult to undo.
  
  

Overcoming Dependence

• Helping your spouse recover from his addiction to alcohol is complicated and time-consuming, but it is possible with perseverance and professional intervention. Alcoholism counselor Glynis Sherwood suggests discussing with your spouse the cost of alcoholism on both of your lives to help the addicted spouse realize the consequences of the addiction and the pressing need for a lifestyle change. Honest communication and shameless expression of vulnerability is fundamental to a successful -- and permanent -- recovery.