Dealing with marriage is difficult enough especially if there are factors like finances and child parenting issues to consider.
Adding problems of alcoholism to marriage can weaken whatever ties bind the marital relationship.
It is not quite surprising, however, if divorce comes up since the element of alcoholism in relationships can lead to all sorts of abuse -- verbal, physical, and sexual.
If your spouse was not one who indulged in excessive alcohol drinking before you got married, do not lose hope easily.
You must be well aware that there may be external factors affecting your spouse's state of mid to make him resort to alcoholism.
There may be something that has been eating into his system or bothering his thoughts wherein alcoholism instead of marriage is his form of refuge.
You can consider trying to reach out when he is sober, and show support and willingness to help him unload his burdens.
However, expect some resistance because not all alcoholics are willing to admit that they are addicted to drinking.
Try to engage him in light conversations and bring up the subject matter only when he is not intoxicated.
If he refuses any form of help or cooperation despite your earnest efforts to reach out, consider giving him space.
Perhaps by being alone, he can sort things out and realize for himself where it is all leading to.
Now it is a different thing altogether if you knew that your husband was already an alcoholic even before you married him.
You gambled on the notion that your marriage can change him for good.
Unfortunately, the gamble you took on alcoholism and marriage did not pay off and now you are saddled with the problem of dealing with both.
If there is violence involved and your children are also suffering from all the strain and tension happening in your household, consider what has more importance.
Are you hoping still that your husband will come to his senses or will you save your children the strain and anguish every time they experience violence occurring in their own home? Accept the reality of your situation and deal with it by ensuring your safety and that of your children.
You can research online about the same problem and situation you are in to find possible solutions.
You will find out that the only cases that were resolved are those where the alcoholic spouse was willing to get help and rehabilitation.
Living a life where there is only strife and violence is like taking a trip to self-destruction yourself.
Think of what alcoholism and marriage is doing to your children and perhaps you can find the resolve to change the courses of your lives.