With today's economy, the level of financial stress in many families has reached the breaking level and many are trying to figure out how to save marriage when times get tough.
The possibility of job loss, utility shut offs, car repossessions and foreclosure are increasing across the country.
Even the most stable of marriages can reach a stress point that can lead to divorce proceedings.
By learning a few well intentioned techniques you can help to reduce some of the stress that is creating many problems in families across the country.
Trying to keep any issues from your children so that they do not worry is something you should not do at any time.
While many children do not need to know the full details of the issues in the family you can still let them know that there are problems but that they can count on you and your spouse to make sure that they have food, clothing and a roof over their head.
No matter how bad it is financially there are resources you can turn to to help with the financial problems you may be facing.
Just as in marriage it is important to communicate with any of your creditors if you are going to have issues meeting your obligations.
That brings me to the first method in making sure that your marriage weathers any financial and emotional storms to come.
From the very start of the marriage both spouses need to communicate their needs and wants in ways that do not threaten, belittle or make demands on the other spouse.
Marriage is truly an ongoing compromise day in and day out.
All decisions for the family need to take into consideration how it will affect the entire family not just one person in the family.
If you or your spouse likes to participate in a particular activity that takes a significant amount of time away from the family then there needs to be an appropriate trade off for the other spouse in terms of an activity that they want to engage in.
Talking about any financial issues that come up including possible pay cuts, job loss or issues with a mortgage or other issues is very important so that both spouses can weigh in about possible solutions to potential problems.
If it is difficult for both spouses to converse with each other without escalating into an argument with yelling and throwing of things then you should consider a counselor trained in marriage issues.
If you attend a church regularly you may be able to find a qualified counselor on the church staff.
Being able to talk about the issues in the family in a non threatening situation can help keep tempers under control so that the actual problems behind the marriage strife can be addressed.
In determining how to save marriage you need to look at your style of communication and what is really behind the problems you and your spouse are facing.
By finding the root cause you can address it and make your marriage stronger.