I have some specific marriage help laid out below for you to transform your marriage but I wonder how much you really want to change.
A lot of us say we want a better marriage but for some reason don't wantto make changes to get what we want.
Often times we want our spouse to change and thus think that's the best chance of transforming the marriage.
Well this marriage help is all about you and changing how you are handling key aspects of your relationship.
There is time down the road to get your spouse fixed.
Marriage Help #1 - Don't Look To Your Spouse For Happiness Your spouse should compliment your life but not necessarily be your life.
If you depend solely on the words and actions of your spouse for your happiness then you will rarely be happy.
Your spouse may be the most wonderful person in the world but he or she is just human.
Along with human nature comes imperfections and it also results in not measuring up to expectations at times.
It's important to understand that your spouse is human and capable of disappointing and frustrating you at times.
Since you know this will be the case your attitude and demeanor shouldn't get too high or too low.
This will keep you balanced and happy.
Marriage Help #2- Commit To Not Arguing or Fighting Over Unimportant Stuff When marriages are going great the little annoying habits tend to get graciously overlooked.
Why rock the boat when the waters are calm and the relationship is going smooth, right? It's another thing when tension is high and you feel frustrated or disappointed by something your spouse did or didn't do.
Make a commitment to yourself to not partake in arguments or fights about nothing.
The less stuff you fight about the better your relationship will be.
Of course, if a matter is important to you or the family then deal with it in a loving and kind manner.
Every issue doesn't need to be resolved with an argument.
Use a little love and your spouse will respect and love you even more.
Marriage Help #3- Ask Your Spouse How You Can Be A Better Helpmate You may think you are setting yourself up to be taken advantage of but don't be afraid to ask this question.
It will help your marriage if you understand what your spouse needs or doesn't need from you.
Perhaps you are like a lion who likes to control any and all things with the relationship.
Perhaps if it doesn't go your way then no peace can be found in your house or marriage.
Maybe, your spouse can give you some constructive feedback on how to be a better spouse.
This will serve two purposes.
Your spouse will appreciate that you are willing to change for the sake of your relationship and soften your spouses heart regarding changing.
If your spouse says you are perfect just as you are don't settle for that.
Come up with 3 things that you think would make your marriage better and ask your partner to comment on them.
I know marriage help is not easy to accept because for some it signifies some kind of failure.
Please know that the only way you fail is by doing nothing.