- Ask your partner what would make a perfect day for him or her.
To whatever extent possible, create that day. - Create a scrapbook or collage of your first date.
Include pictures, ticket stubs and memories of that time together. - Talk about the times the two of you felt closest.
Then pick two or three things from that time that you can do again. - Find out about your partner's dreams.
How? Just ask.
These dreams can be from the present or from childhood, small or large.
Then see how many you can fulfill. - Write a love note to your partner.
You could write about what first attracted you to your partner and what still attracts you now; you could apologize for something or anticipate something in the future. - If you like to travel, choose a place your partner would like to visit but is not within your budget (Italy, perhaps).
Then go the video store and rent travel movies and/or movies set in Italy.
Cook Italian food and make it Italian night in your house. - Ask your partner this: "What does love look like to you?" The answer can give you the beginning of a map to guide you in expressing your love.
- If you're currently doing anything in the relationship that is not working, remember the first rule of ruts: Stop digging.
Find something, almost anything, to do differently to get out of the rut. For one week, take over a household task that your love dislikes. - Give a treasure-hunt gift , Whatever gift you get for your partner, make a game out of finding it.
Leave a card with a note '° suggesting he or she look some-'' where for the next clue.
Thenn ink that place leave another note about where to find the next clue, and the next one, etc.
, leading up to where you have hidden the gift.
Use your imagination. - Record a CD of music.
Include favorite songs as well as songs that express your feelings for your partner. - If at all possible, take a day off or use a weekend day just to play.
Play games, go to a park and swing, fly kites, blow bubbles - whatever you enjoyed as a child.
It can be really romantic, as well as a great stress-reliever.