One suggestion that many men make when they end the relationship with their girlfriend is to remain friends.
This can be impossibly hard for a woman who envisioned a romantic future with her boyfriend.
If you find yourself in this situation think twice before you tell your former boyfriend that you don't want to be his friend.
In fact, you may actually win your ex boyfriend back by being a supportive and caring friend to him.
When a relationship first ends, the emotions are right near the surface.
A woman who is left wondering why her boyfriend needs space or time, may feel so much resentment and anger that she can't imagine just being his friend.
This is especially true if she had her heart set on a future that included a walk down the aisle and children.
It's good to take a step back before making any final decisions about the role you'll play in his life now that your romantic relationship has come to an end.
In order to win your ex boyfriend back you need to remain a presence in his life.
You need to be careful not to drop completely out of sight.
If you do this you may actually also drop completely out of his mind, which is something you don't want to do.
If a man has felt a strong emotional connection to you, he'll want to still have you there as a friend and a confidante.
If you really do hope to have a future with him, take on that role.
This entails being available for him if he needs to talk about school, his job or any other issues.
It's important to treat him as a friend though.
Don't call him by any pet names and don't tell him how you feel.
Instead listen to his issues and offer as much supportive advice as you can.
A good thing to remember though is that you must control the ebb and flow of the relationship.
This means that you need to be the one who controls how long you talk and when you talk.
Don't become just a sounding board to him.
When you are talking, at an appropriate time, excuse yourself by suggesting you have other plans.
Keep the tone of the conversations and emails light and always wish him well.
To win your ex boyfriend back you must remember to respect him, just as you want him to respect you.
Don't offer advice if you don't feel comfortable doing so and always tell him that you're willing to listen even if you can't help.
He'll appreciate it and it will help remind him why he fell in love with you in the first place.