It happens. You don't want it to happen, but it does. Marriages can start to fall apart, even when you have the best of intentions. If your wife wants a divorce, but you don't, you might be wondering if there is something that you can do to change her mind. Most marriages do not have to end, they end because neither person can find a way to make it work, to bring back the romance and the magic that was once there.

You can. And when you are able to bring back the romance and the magic into the relationship, your wife is going to be a lot less likely to want to continue on with a divorce.

Here are 3 steps that you need to take right away if you want to get your wife back before she ends up going ahead with the divorce:

1. You need to make sure that you never lose your cool and your composure.

In the heat of an argument, at a moment when you end up saying the wrong thing, you can easily make it harder on yourself to get her to change her mind. Now, that might not be your intention, but it really does not matter if it ends up making your wife feel as though there is nothing there worth saving, does it?

2. You need to realize that although she might be mad or upset, a divorce is probably the last thing that she really wants.

It's very rare that a woman is actually looking forward to a divorce. Just like you, she does not really want to see the marriage to end, she just might have reached a point where she assumes that nothing is going to change in the marriage and that the only natural thing to do is to opt for a divorce. If you can make her change her mind even in the slightest bit and see that there is some hope, then you might be able to get her back.

3. You need to have a plan of action to win back your wife.

This is not a time for you to rely on hope or chance or anything else but a solid plan of action to get your wife back. If you are really determined to win back your wife, then you need to be able to figure out step by step exactly what it is that you need to do. There are going to be times when you are not sure what you should do, and when you have a proven plan to guide you, then you can make it happen.