Do you wish to make new friends? Maybe you just switched employment, relocated to a new district, or are on the rebound after a breakup. Regardless of why you want to make new friends, read these tips to help you make the procedure more successful:
1. Smile
Most of us are apprehensive about people who never smile. Sure, we all have ghastly days, but people who never smile have somehow failed to witness the beauty in life. You've almost certainly heard that it takes less facial muscles to smile, than to frown. While the issue is undecided among experts, clinical studies have verified that smiles are indeed contagious. While the "world" won't smile with you when you smile-it's likely that the people surrounding you will.
2. Say kind things
While we're taught to do this from an early age, many of us fail to heed this guidance. In his book "How to Win Friends and Influence People," Dale Carnegie debates that we should never "criticize, condemn, or complain." While that appears simple, too often we find ourselves making negative remarks that we wish we could take back. Remember that positive words begin with positive thinking. So watch positive shows and movies, read positive news, and surround yourself with positive people.
3. Confess when you're in the wrong or have made a mistake
Sometimes being right or wrong has zero to do with our attitude toward a person. The difficulty is that they never admit when they've messed up. When a person fails to admit mistakes, then the inference is that he or she is perfect. Since "to err is human," we have difficulty relating to someone who gives the impression that they're somehow above making mistakes. So when you've messed up, just own up to it and try to avoid making the same mistake twice.
4. Remember to say "please" and "thank you."
Dale Carnegie observes in "How to Win Friends and Influence People," that feeling important is more valuable to most people, than being rich or powerful. Few of us like being ordered around like robots, or feeling like unappreciated nobodies. So remember these "magic words" whenever you make a request or receive something. You'll find that people will respond to you more positively if you remember to take the time to say these words.
5. Motivate people
Life can appear much more thrilling when we have ambition in life. People spend loads of money to hear motivational speakers, because they make them excited and goal-oriented. Mr. Carnegie argued that we can become more popular by creating an "eager want" in people.
6. Assume the best in people
When you assume that someone will falter, and then communicate that expectation to them-it's highly unlikely that they'll like you. On the other hand, when you assume that someone will succeed, then those positive vibes can be contagious. Assume the best in people, rather than the worst.
While making friends isn't rocket science, it involves an insight into human nature and how to communicate effectively. These tips can help you to make new friends fast.