You always thought that if there was a man on earth you knew like the palm of your hand, it was your husband.
You know his tastes for food, clothing, movies, friends and even the jokes which would make him laugh! Suddenly things started to go sour.
He was not the man you thought you knew.
One day you hear what you feared most - he wants to leave you and is asking for a divorce.
Shock, tears and anger are the expected reactions from a wife.
But when things settle down, you plan for getting your husband back, but have no idea how.
Your mind is full of memories, you constantly think of the many 'sacrifices' that you have made in life just to ensure that he was happy and as you walk down memory lane, your love for him slowly turns to hatred.
Revenge is all that you have in mind and anyhow you want to 'teach him a lesson' for this horrible betrayal of trust.
Let it be understood, this is not the right way for getting your husband back.
This is in no way trying to push you in a corner.
Every woman feels jilted and angry when the husband leaves.
The eye of suspicion tries to look for the 'other woman' who may exist and may not.
There are various considerations for getting your husband back.
Be that as it may, for getting your husband back, you have to plan out a course of action which should never be ruled by emotions but by logic and rationality.
The first step is to look eye to eye in the mirror.
And we are not talking about physical appearance only, though this is one of the very important aspects in women for which men leave them.
Sounds silly? Well, the truth of the matter is that most men attach a lot of value to 'looks' of the woman he lives with and the more 'prized' his possession the more he finds her indispensable.
This is a critical indicator of what action steps you need to take for getting your husband back.
But the good side of the story is that most husbands talk about their disappointments early on, when they find their wives losing the sex appeal, has a bulging belly or looks sad in a swim suit.
Even if you have brains of a wizard and are born with great gift of the gab, for getting your husband back, may be all you might have to do is to bring back that big butt or slim waistline or botox your face.
A closer analysis of the situation after your husband has left you could also reveal a host of flaws, misgivings and misunderstandings in the relationship, which you thought was rock steady.
To make your efforts of getting your husband back, you would need to look at every issue as closely as possible.
Like most wives, after a few years of marriage, you too could have taken him for granted.
His resentments were ignored perhaps.
Perhaps you have a habit of criticizing and analyzing him in public or do some nit-picking about his habits in front of others? Think hard and chances are that several truths would dawn on you soon.
For getting your husband back, you would have to address all these incidences of the past clearly and honestly.
Whatever your efforts are for getting your husband back, remember one basic principle.
To woo him back to your life, you may try to get back your lustrous curls or sexy looks, but never try to be someone he possibly likes but you are not.
This can spell disaster, because once your efforts are successful in getting your husband back and he actually stages a comeback, you are going to expose your true self and this can result in him doing the vanishing trick all over again.