If your marriage is in a state of turmoil, and unhappiness seems to be the overriding feeling, then you need to make some changes  today.
Chances are you spend a lot of time thinking about the things that aren't working in your marriage, or perhaps all the things your spouse has or has not done that have hurt you.
When you are feeling bad about a situation, your mind naturally gravitates towards everything that is bad, wrong, or not working.
The folly in that type of thinking is that it's not going to help your marriage in anyway.
Its actually counterproductive to what you really need to see happen.
You need a positive change to occur to bring back those feelings of love and happiness that seem to have left your marriage.
My suggestion would be to begin with what you can change: your attitude.
You can control your perspective, your point of view, and your thoughts.
You are responsible for the way you choose to view your spouse, their actions, and your marriage.
Because you can't control many things in your marriage, including your spouse, the key to strengthening your marriage is by working on yourself.
  This is one area you have ultimate control over and can make changes that can have enormous positive impacts on your relationship.
Therefore, I urge you to do something different today with your thoughts: be grateful.
When things are bad, all we can see are the problems in our marriage and our spouse.
Our view becomes narrowly focused and begins to further deteriorate our marriage.
How  could it not? With only negative things filling our mind, things surely will only get worse.
You need to move from anger and criticism to thankfulness.
It's difficult, yes, but it is a choice.
Are you willing to make that choice to help save your marriage? If so, start today with this idea: Take some time thinking about your partner.
Think about all the things you do love about the, the things that drew you to them to begin with.
Perhaps you could even start a gratitude journal.
In it, you can take time each day to write 5 things about them that you are thanful for.
Try to not repeat anything on those lists for a month.
That exercise alone will give you a whole new perspective.
  Being thankful for what you have in your spouse and your marriage will affect you and your marriage in so many good ways.