Whether we admit it or not, most women want to experience marriage at some point in their lives.
For some, thoughts surrounding marriage began with dreams of meeting that special one during childhood.
For others, marital thoughts did not occur until they reached adulthood when they observed other women getting married or when they began to think about the benefits of marriage.
Regardless of when these thoughts began, the burning desire to fulfill this goal can be one of the most intense feelings a woman will ever have.
Yet, the act of being married is not an easy thing to do and as a result, many women struggle with it.
In light of this, it is not uncommon for women to get married much later than they desire, stay married for a limited amount of time, or not marry at all due to one little factor: They don't know how to get and stay married! If this is you, follow these few tips, so that when the time is right, you will be in "tip top shape" to not only get, but stay married! Tip 1: Believe in the institution of marriage.
In order to do anything in life, you have to believe that you can do it first.
For instance, some people suggest that marriage brings unhappiness or that marriage is just about a piece of paper.
People who adhere to these, or similar philosophies, will likely struggle with getting or staying married because, they don't believe in the institution of marriage.
If this is you, do what you can to change this perspective because it is hindering you from opening up your mind and heart, both of which are needed to obtain and sustain a marriage.
Tip 2: Have an open mind regarding sharing yourself with a partner.
One of the challenges regarding marriage, is feeling comfortable with the act of giving up parts of "yourself.
" Marriage is a "union" where two people should become one, not two individual people with different goals in life.
That is why marriage is about give-and-take.
When you are able to give up certain elements of your individuality for the sake of a union that is stronger than one that you can create alone, it is one of the most beautiful things you can experience.
"Two heads truly are better than one.
" But the "two heads" have to be on the same page and work together well.
Hence, try not to consider the loss of your individuality as something to be avoided, but rather try to consider the benefit of joining a union as something to be admired.
Tip 3: Do things that you like to do.
Just because you should give up "parts" of yourself (Tip 2), doesn't mean you have to give up "all" of yourself (Tip 3).
This goes for whether you are single, in a dating relationship, or married...
All women need to have some level of individuality or identity.
Many women believe that in order to attract a man for marriage, or to stay within a marriage, they have to be overly "available" for the men in their lives.
We think that by doing this, this will encourage them to see us for who we want them to see us for...
Wives.
But in reality, men are drawn to women who are confident and independent.
They want to be with women who value themselves enough to take care of themselves.
When they see you taking care of yourself in a good way, they will feel more honored and appreciated when you also take time to care for them.
When you make everything available for them, they have no need to value the "wife" in you and can easily take you for granted.
You have to leave a little something for yourself, to get and keep them interested.
Tip 4: Avoid people who have unhealthy marriages, while attracting people who do.
I'm not trying to be rude, but the energy from people in unhealthy marriages will just drain you from having a healthy perspective regarding marriage.
It's just not good to feed off of the energy of people who are living a life that is different from the one that you invision for yourself.
Instead, try to surround yourself with people who are happily married.
Play close attention to the way in which they treat each other.
If you are close to one or both of them, ask them what it is about their marriage that works.
If you want to be very experimental, find an elderly couple that has been happily married for years and just pick off of their brain a little.
I am sure you will learn things about marriage that you never even thought of before.
Tip 5: Read self-help-books.
There are a plethora of books designed to explain differences between the ways in which men and women communicate, dating advice, and healthy relationships.
By taking the time to do a little research on dating and marriage, you will be more informed about marriage and how you can succeed in it.