- 1). Tune in to how you feel about yourself when you're with him. If your boyfriend makes you feel insecure, nervous or uneducated, you have a problem. However, if he makes you feel confident, respected and important, you are with a man who is good for you.
- 2). Spend time outside of your relationship. A healthy relationship is one that you feel secure enough to leave for awhile, whether it's for a night class while you are working on your Ph.D., a weekend in Florida with your girlfriends or a Sunday shopping spree. If you don't panic at the thought of being without your man but still are itching to see him after a few hours apart, you have found a healthy balance. Also, your boyfriend should make you feel as though you are free to engage in your favorite pastimes and activities.
- 3). Watch out for the red flags that will clarify that you are with the wrong man. Some of the big warning signs are lying and cheating. However, other warnings aren't so glaringly obvious. Holding strong beliefs that are on opposite ends of the spectrum, such as about religion, child rearing or where to live, may shine light on the fact that if the two of you aren't willing to compromise, you may not be right for each other.
- 4). Listen to your gut. This is possibly one of the most important ways to find out if you are marrying the right man. Instead of ignoring the little voice in the back of your head that's warning you to rethink your decision, listen to it. You may come to a conclusion that is hard to face, but ultimately you will feel much better if you are honest with both yourself and your spouse.
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