Men face a cultural disadvantage in divorce court.
Picking a lawyer that you work well with and trust can help you make up for that.
Your lawyer is your Representative to the divorce court and to your wife's divorce lawyer, you want to be sure that you work well with him or her in order to win your divorce.
Here are seven ideas that will help you get started working with your lawyer:

1. Educate yourself on the divorce process.
   Understand the things that are possible in your divorce and how to manage your case.
   
2. Remember that although your lawyer is on your side and working for you, this divorce is more important to you than to anyone else.
   As such be very clear on your outcome, what you expect out of the divorce.
   
3. Be sure the lines of communication are open to your lawyer.
   If you are not in communication with him it is possible that something will work out differently than you had planned.
   Make sure he has you up-to-date contact info and phone numbers.
   
4. Be totally honest.
   There may be things about your marriage that are difficult to discuss, yet if your lawyer feels they are important to the case then you need to freely discuss them.
   
5. Keep things simple: when discussing settlements try to focus on things that are really important for the new life that you will have on the other side of the divorce.
   Don't make the lawyers fight over simple, stupid things.
   This kind of behavior will only increase the legal fees and not help you at all.
   
6. Your lawyer is not your emotional counciler.
   You are paying him for what he does best and that is to represent you in court.
   If you are having a difficult time coping then find someone else to talk to.
   Perhaps you just need a friend to listen or maybe you need a professional.
   If you need this kind of service then get it.
   Don't fall apart and blow your divorce, you need to keep your head in the game.
   
7. Get organized, you need to get your financial history and records together and you need to supply them to your lawyer.
   Trying to hide assets can cost you big time.
   This is an area you need to be open about or your legal bills will escalate as the other side digs deeper into you finances.
   

Interview more than one lawyer and ask him or her about their philosophy of how to approach divorce.
Compare this to information that you have learned about the divorce process and the strategies for getting the best results.
Learn all you can about the process.
Remember ignorance of what is possible will not help you come out of this thing on terms that serve you.
Learn the best tips and techniques and come out with all you need for your new life on the other side of your divorce.