If anyone ever tells you that they have never fought in their marriage, they are lying.
Even the best of couples will have the occasional disagreement.
This does not mean your marriage is in trouble, it means you both care enough to push an issue.
However, when fighting or arguing becomes a regular event in the relationship, it might be time to take a better look at what is going on If you are experiencing frequent quarrels or arguments within your relationship, it could be a sign that there are more serious issues hiding just beneath the surface.
It is easy to get caught up in the daily happenings of a marriage and lose sight of the big picture.
When this happens, it is important to take a step back and try your best to evaluate the situation from an outside perspective.
While it might sound like it contradicts everything marriage stands for, trying to assess the situation with a lack of personal attachment or involvement can actual shed some new light on the issues you might be having.
Passion and anger are not that emotionally different from one another.
When you argue and fight, this can cloud your feelings and perceptions and can cause things to escalate very quickly.
Before you know it, things have been said that were not meant.
Things to look for when making an objective assessment of the situation include common themes, times of day, events leading up to the argument, repeated phrases and emotions shown by you and your partner.
In many relationships, you become your spouse's safety net, comforting shoulder and a central part of their existence.
When this happens, it becomes easy to accidentally vent frustrations or place undue blame on a spouse for things out of their control.
This is especially common in a situation where one spouse stays at home full-time with the children or takes care of another family member.
By walking through the argument, piece by piece, and trying to look at it from an objective point of view, you could notice things that were not apparent during the time of the argument.
What comes off as a lack of respect or disappointment could be projection from a rough day at work or evidence of a deeper issue.
However, in the middle of the argument, emotions make it hard to discern smaller details and events that might be influencing the situation.