You wonder how you are going to live your life without her.
Or maybe, you feel that sinking feeling in your stomach and you ask yourself if life could get any worse than this.
I know that feeling and it sucks.
Fortunately for you, I am here to tell you that you can get her back and turn your life around and make it even better than before! Here are the 3 most essential things you must do to stand the greatest chance of winning her back.
1.
Do not call her -- At all! Let her be.
As my favorite mentor would say, "Give her the gift of missing you.
" This will give her (and you too) time and space to analyze the relationship, what went wrong and also cool down emotions.
I know, I know, if you could just tell her or show how much you love her and how remorseful you are, then she would come back into your arms and live happily ever after.
Dear friend, this will never work because instead of pulling her closer, you will only push her away.
Powerful emotions are at work here so it is very important to have a level head.
Humans tend to act on emotions in the present, and justify later logically.
After a breakup it is important you have a clear head otherwise you will not stand a chance.
2.
Get a life.
Get busy! I am someone who always tries to see the positive side of things.
If you also try to do the same, it will enhance your life greatly.
Take your breakup as an opportunity to actively partake in other areas of your life.
For example, go and visit your old aunt - make her day! Work on that project that you keep postponing.
Spend quality time with family and friends.
Just do anything that will keep your mind off her.
It is easier said than done but pining after her will not make her come back to you.
3.
Understand Attraction This is probably the most important point of all.
If your girlfriend broke up with you, then she probably is not feeling attracted to you anymore.
(This is a fact - at least 99% of the time) Do not despair though.
This only means you have to know how to rekindle those feelings of attraction she felt at the beginning of your relationship.
Maybe you did not make her laugh enough.
Or you neglected her needs.
Or even, you did not give her enough space because you always wanted to spend time together.
Either way you must identify the root problem and make it go away before you attempt to get her back.
I know it is difficult for you right now but relax and take your time - you will get her back before you know it!