If you're like most women, you probably have an idea of what traits you want in the men you're going to date.
Some of these traits may be present in men you meet daily, but because they only show a FEW of these traits, you probably didn't consider them worthy to be called your Ideal.
If this is the case, I have news for you..
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Any of the men you already interact with could be Mr.
Ideal if you look closely.
In fact, you may already be attracted to a guy who shows one or two of the traits you're looking for.
But because a guy doesn't show ALL the traits in your list, you deem him unworthy to be called 'the One' for you.
My point is you could be passing on the chance to really get to know these men because you already have someone in your life...
your Ideal Man, the man with no flaws.
Listen, ladies - if you really want to meet someone you can cherish forever, you need to deal with one cruel reality: there's no such man.
All the men you will meet are human, and they will always have flaws.
If you keep summoning your mental checklist full of the 'traits' of your Ideal Guy, you could be missing the chance to meet the right guy for you.
So how do you deal with this situation? The answer is simple...
Start over.
I'm not saying you should do away with your list of 'quality traits'...
I'm saying you have to filter your list so that you can figure out which traits really matter to you.
For instance, out of all the traits you have listed, you figured 'health-buff', 'intellectual' and 'ambitious' are the traits you really want, and that you can compromise on the rest of the traits (good looking, filthy rich, six foot tall, Brad Pitt look-alike, etc), you can begin the process of realistically qualifying the men you will meet daily.
Next...
let's talk about the places where you could meet these quality men.
Don't you just miss your college years? I sure do! I'm digressing for a reason, so please bear with me for a while...
College is a dater's dream, and ironically, you cannot appreciate this fact fully until you've graduated and have finally realized that dating is more challenging in the 'real world'.
Finding your potential sweetheart is easy when all you have to do is attend class and go to the cafeteria.
After this idyllic phase of your dating life, you might think it's pretty difficult to find compatible people, but I disagree.
It certainly is challenging, but it's definitely not impossible.
Here's a step-by-step plan for finding the right guy for you: First Step..
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Choose One Trait Your Mr.
Right Must Have You already have your list of 'traits'.
Now, choose one that you prioritize over the others.
This one trait will give you a clue on where to find your Mr.
Right.
Here are some examples to illustrate this point: •If you're looking for a guy who loves to get up every morning and run a few miles (like you do); you certainly won't find him in bars late at night.
You will have better luck if you join a health club, or a gym.
•If you want someone who knows how to cook, try the supermarket.
Single men, like single women, shop for their own supplies.
You just have to be observant enough to figure out whether a man is buying "food for one" or buying "food for a family of four".
•Is your Mr.
Right a bookworm like you? Join your local book club and find out who among the guys there share your passion for John Grisham's novels.
•If 'similar interests' ranks high on your list, join niche clubs.
Every city has a coffee club, a poetry reading club and even a local tech-geeks community.
You just have to read bulletin boards and the local papers to find out where the members meet and start joining.
•If you're looking for a devout guy, you can attend your local church's singles program or bible study group.
•If you want a man who loves dogs, go to the dog park, and let your pet socialize with you.
How About Online Dating? What if you don't have the time to go to these places? Is there still hope? The answer is "Yes"! The man of your dreams might just be someone who can't afford to date the conventional way, and so he goes to niche dating sites to look for the woman of his dreams.
Just do a simple search and find niche dating places where people meet up and mingle over the internet.
Second Step...
Look for signs of flirting.
One major requirement that Mr.
Right must have is this: attraction for you.
Even if you find a guy who fits the bill, if he isn't interested in starting a special friendship with you, the possibility of having a love relationship with him won't come.
Guys who talk to you and flirt with you are the ones who are interested.
Initially, the interaction could be seen as 'friendly', but given time, this friendship could develop into something more.
And finally, the third step...
how to keep your Mr.
Right interested.
When you've found the right guy for you, there's just one crucial step left before you can call him the guy who will be with you forever...
you have to make sure you can keep the attraction burning.